Dear Abby: We hosted a couple for a short visit to our remote cabin in the country. Afterward, I discovered a pair of pink panties lying on the street in front of our mailbox. When I picked them up with a stick to take them to the trash, I realized they were a pair of clean pink panties that I had misplaced. They must have been stuck to the sheets I had placed on the bed immediately before our guests arrived.

Now I can't stop wondering what this couple was thinking when they threw away the panties. This may not seem like a serious problem, but it has become a source of embarrassment for me every time I meet these people. Should I explain the panties situation or leave it at that?

— Red-faced in South Carolina

Dear Red-Faced: Don't get upset. Next time you see the couple, ask them if they found a pair of pink panties you misplaced when they came to visit.

Dear Abby, I was watching a police video online and spotted the woman who lives in the apartment next door. I know it's her because she has a prominent tattoo on her chest. She was arrested for drunkenness and disorderly conduct.

She freaked out at the police. First she screamed and fought back. Then she collapsed and started sobbing loudly. Then she started laughing like a madman. I'm afraid to live next door to her now. Should I show the video to the building manager and demand that she be moved?

— Fear in Oklahoma

Dear Scared: While the police video was understandably disturbing, I'm not sure showing it to the property manager would be enough to evict the woman. However, it could be a valid reason for you to move out of the building. If you're truly scared, consult an attorney specializing in real estate law who can advise you on potentially terminating your lease.

Dear Abby: My wife and I are considering moving to another state to be closer to our son and his family. Our dilemma is this: We have four long-time friends who are well-respected and successful local real estate agents. Each of them would expect to be chosen as the agent for our home.

If we choose one of them, the other three would no doubt be hurt and insulted. (They all know each other.) We feel like our only option is to hire an outside agent to sell our house and explain our reasons to our friends before the property goes on the market. What do you say to that, please?

— Difficult decision in the south

Dear Sir/Madam, there are a couple of ways to handle this. The first would be to hire an outside agent, potentially alienating all of your long-time friends. Another option would be to tell them all that you plan to move to another state to be closer to your children, and then see which of the four gives you the best offer to represent you in the sale.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.


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