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Dating can be difficult at the best of times, but relationship experts are warning about a newly emerged dating trend called “roaching” – a practice named after a common household pest.

Dating apps like Tinder, Hinge and Bumble are popular among Millennials and Generation Z alike.

This is due to the easy-to-navigate systems and the numerous success stories of other users who have found love for life on the platforms.

Roaching is inspired by the humble cockroach. (Getty Stock Image)

However, just like dating in real life, you may meet someone you don't get along with so well on a romantic level or who has different relationship ethics and expectations.

But instead of being open with you about their feelings, they may ghost you, engage in orbiting, or perhaps even start planning future maneuvers.

Unfortunately, these are not the only dating warning signs you need to look out for, as another phenomenon called “roaching” is on the rise.

Roaching first came to public attention in 2021 and essentially involves one partner deciding to be dishonest and hide the fact that they are seeing you with multiple other people.

The name derives from the assumption that a cockroach scurrying around usually indicates an infestation.

Susan Tombetti, CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, echoed this definition, according to the New York Post, saying roaching is: “Inspired by the disgust you feel when you see one of those nasty little insects – but knowing there are plenty of them when you turn on the light.”

Pay attention to the signs to avoid becoming a victim of cockroach infestation. (Getty Stock Image)

Pay attention to the signs to avoid becoming a victim of cockroach infestation. (Getty Stock Image)

Although roaching is not directly cheating, it is often frowned upon because the person is intentionally being opaque about their love life.

However, if you and your partner have not yet sat down and had the “exclusive talk,” you both have the right to date other people.

But if you are reading this and are worried that you are a victim of a cockroach infestation, then you must know the signs, right?

Damona Hoffman, a dating coach at OkCupid, told the Washington Post that you can usually tell you're being poached when you feel like “the person isn't really there for you or available and is very reluctant to talk about certain details.”

In addition, lead therapist Sally Baker told Metro to look out for “telltale signs in body language.”

“Most people are uncomfortable lying, so they unconsciously communicate verbally or physically that they are not being transparent or completely honest,” she explains.

“Be attentive. Listen to what is being said and how it is being said.”

Usually there is more than one. (Getty Stock Image)

Usually there is more than one. (Getty Stock Image)

She also said that over-explaining in certain situations is a sign of subservience, as is stumbling over words or speaking quickly to hide the truth.

Other possible signs of roaching include your partner keeping you at a distance, keeping their evening plans secret, and not wanting to talk about your future.

“If you are unsure whether your partner is exclusive or not, the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases is greater,” she warned.

“It is therefore important to use a barrier method of contraception, regardless of other contraceptive methods.”

Sally added that it's not worth demanding exclusivity from a partner if one of you has a secret social life.

Be careful, guys, out there on the dating apps!

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